1, pay close attention to children: when our children tell us that he is now more stressful, as parents to show close attention, you can and children together to analyze the causes of force and follow-up together to discuss solutions, so that their children clearly know that adults have been paying attention to them, give them confidence, reduce their stress.
2, appropriate to children to reduce pressure: when children are stressed, as their Parents take their children out to play more, take a break, let children close to nature, relax in nature, cultivate the mood, train children to feel the beauty of life, feel happy, relaxed mood can make the heart of the pressure to reduce.
3, learn to combine work and rest: our children study hard inside the school, at home, do not force them to work harder, home should leave behind the study, let the children's mood Relax and unwind, to learn to combine work and rest, a day of learning down will also be fatigue, home should be relaxed, rather than closing the door to continue learning, appropriate relaxation mood can better improve learning efficiency.
We always lament the difficulties of the adult world and miss the carefree childhood days immensely. We think that young children do not have the burden of school, the pressure of life, and can be cared for by their families, and that there are no worries except eating, drinking and playing every day. In fact, young children often face a lot of psychological pressure, but we have grown into adults, it is difficult to notice it. As long as careful observation will find that children can not always show a good side, they will also have a lot of emotional distress, sometimes endless crying, tantrums, sometimes suddenly wake up in the middle of the night, sometimes suddenly become very clingy, and even a little unreasonable. All of these situations are manifestations of children when they are facing psychological stress, except that they have limited language expression ability and cannot clearly speak out the psychological stress they are facing, and they have insufficient experience in dealing with the world, plus their parents do not understand them and cannot provide them with timely help, they are easily troubled by stress.
Parents need to pay high attention if they notice the following behaviors in their children, who may be facing excessive stress or the stress has been going on for quite some time. ① Sudden behavioral deterioration, not doing the things they already know how to do, even the little things like going to the bathroom and putting on clothes and shoes need to be done by mom. ②Suddenly becomes very aggressive, crying, unreasonable, telling lies, hitting others, deliberately damaging things, etc. ③Suddenly appear unusual fear and sadness, often feel afraid, but pester parents, hide in the closet or stay at home and do not want to go out. ④Sudden onset of inattentiveness, forgetfulness, rambling, vague and incoherent speech, clinginess or isolation, and depressive symptoms. ⑤ Sudden onset of shortness of breath, headache, anorexia, insomnia and drowsiness, nightmares, sleepwalking and night terrors, frequent colds, persistent and forceful blinking of eyes, nail biting, nose picking, muscle twitching of face or limbs, and other physical symptoms.
Where do young children's stressors come from? Elaine Arlen writes in her book, Tapping the Power of Sensitive Children, "Parenting expert Mary Kosinka has written a long list of stressors for young children, many of which adults would never have thought of. Stress can come from birthday parties, trips, holidays, moving, doctor's appointments, school; it can be bad weather that causes a child to be unable to be outdoors, or the stress that may be encountered when going out to play; distracting news, conflicts between children, being forced to share, being teased, rejected, bullied, misunderstood, and other reasons can be stressors." Sociability problems that may be encountered in kindergarten when interacting with teachers or other children, the death of a loved one, family changes, and other unexpected events may cause children to feel stress, and they will have to deal not only with the stress itself, but also with stress that they will not express.
How to help young children reduce stress. ①Listen patiently. When your child is describing or expressing, don't interrupt or jump to conclusions and make suggestions, but listen patiently to your child's words, so that you can get a clearer picture of your child's true feelings and find the source of stress. ②Consciously comfort. If your child suddenly wakes up from a dream, promptly touch, hug, comfort your child, and encourage him or her to express. Try to let your child have enough sleep and eat healthy and delicious food. Eating and sleeping are important to your child, and your child will only be emotionally stable and happy if he or she eats and sleeps well. ③ Enough company. If you are busy, you can let your child stay next to you and help him find something to do, doodle or set up blocks, and do things quietly with your child, which is also good company. ④ Get close to nature. Children need nature to balance themselves, and often close contact with nature can help children to release stress faster. Take your child to play in the wild on weekends, or if you don't have time, even a walk to a nearby park is good. If nothing we do is effective in relieving our children's stress, then be sure to reach out for help. A counselor or psychologist can provide us with the necessary help.
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